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Day 3 - Rishikesh

The weather looked gloomy with an overcast sky as we woke up. We had breakfast at the hotel and decided to visit Rishikesh today. Again we headed back the way we came yesterday and after crossing Rajaji National Park the road divides and one goes towards to Dehradun and one to Rishikesh. The drive was pleasant, as we opted Laxman  Jhula as our destination google map smartly took us via highway bypassing the main city.But at the end the roads started to get narrower lucky for us we found a parking lot packed yet as we early risers ;)
The weather was little cold compared to the planes of Dehradun with lots of breeze coming from Ganga. We walked to Laxman Jhula to cross it. Oh boy! We have no idea what local authority allows two-wheelers, cycle to cross the hanging bridge which is meant for a pedestrian. And top of it you even have some cows standing in the middle.
I am sure the people coming all the from abroad to Rishikesh for peace, meditation and self-purity do get a complete shock wi…

First month

Tiredness was still there after delivery and by now I realized what people were talking about… shamelessly take advantage of this period to rest yourself. On other hand I was desperate to take a step outside house of my own after 9 months bed rest to feel the breeze brushing against my skin. But it never happened because of customs. Ooof.... On 10th day took a complete shower from head to toe as on same day my stitch was removed which took hardly few minutes. I got Low Transverse Incision which healed well. Oh! How fresh I felt that day after bath and removal of all those bandages from lower abdomen.
For Aarush, his umbilical cord also fall off after 10days, he lost his weight in first 12 days. He got oral polio drops and one shot of BCG this month but didn’t cried almost – behaved very well with me outside house and in front of doctor.
After discharge from hospital it was tough to decide where to put our little one. Though Baby cots, cradles and moses baskets are widely available today, in India. But, I strongly felt breast-feeding would be easier if he sleeps with me as I won’t have to get out of bed every time to feed. So, weighing the pros and cons we made the decision together that he will sleep with us. Till date he does sleep with us only. At nights when he use to cry on and off mainly being hungry or wet – we felt our decision worked out best.

We truly spent hours staring at the little one cozily nested between us, observing his facial expressions while he snooze - particularly grinning or making crying face with his eyes closed and when he purses his lips is truly irresistible. At times we wondered was it a reality or dream - with Aarush we’ve created a home nest that brought incredible joys and ofcourse not to mention sleepless nights. As soon as he use to woke up he would stretch a lot. His tiny hands use to remain tightly clenched while awake. In the form of short naps he use to sleep around 15-18 hrs. Whenever he was startled by a loud noise would thrust out his arms and legs and drew back them or start crying. Yet, he couldn't focus far off objects and that too small ones.
Mostly, my mom use to take care of Aarush be it potty cleaning, massage or giving bath. His thamma (my MIL) was anxious to try her hand seeing his didu (my Mom) doing everything it was hard for her to resist. She also got chance when didu was down with fever for 2-3 days. My dad and mother-in-law left after 15 days of his birth.

After 15 days we appointed one maid who use to give him oil massage as well bath and thereafter wrap him tight in cotton cloth just like a small parcel. Soon after he use to have his milk and fall asleep for hours.
By then, I became milk vending machine. Feeding every 2 -3 hrs was bit troublesome …it took me quite a while to adjust to the same. Often for fun when I use to rub my finger to the corner of his mouth, he would immediately turn towards it for sucking – my mom use to scold me a lot for this action of mine.
On 21st Day we all went first to Kalibari at Vashi to offer puja (from this day onwards me and Aarush were supposed to go anywhere). There also he behaved very nicely and priest took him in his arms to give him blessings of Goddess Kali.
For Santanu, it was hard balancing work and home life.Along with me he was learning to become fully trained, hands-on the nappy, changing, up-all-night which was definitely tiring. Big change over at work, Long commute by locals - Obviously... it was juggling act of enourmous proportions. At end of month Santanu had to leave for Bangalore on a week long trip and missed first month milestone of Aarush.

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